1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I'm in the same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in... it's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
5) I walk down another street.
From: Sogyal Rinpoche, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
This little poem says it all. If you understand it's good if not, not.
I found it in the above mentioned book and loved it. it's funny yet so accurate. That's exactly how our life goes by and can be applied to each person, it's universal.

So okay this was coming as some already felt it so here it is.
So, In the end how would you define NORMAL and/or normality? Hehe if we start from Einstein which said everything is relative except time and human stupidity how can you actually define normal?
If you look in the dictionary probably you'll get: "In behavior, normal means not deviating very much from the average" and here is where the main neuralgic point is.
okay but who decides this average if not ppl and the culture you are living in. So in the end how does a person gets to set his definitions about right- wrong, normal-abnormal.. if not influenced and pressured by the society he/she lives in?
Open now any magazine, any newspaper, the TV and you'll soon find out what 'normality' is the society promoting. The sad thing is that many fall in this trap certain X or Y persons set for you to buy and generate income in a designated area.
I'm not saying that looking good or trying your best it isn't good. On the contrary it shows the personal respect you have for yourself more than anything and then the rest. But guiding your life upon some stereotypes (coz this is what it is in the end) it's pretty sad.
The funny thing is that , actually there are 2. First is the fact those pics you see aren't even that real. they are heavily worked on and enhanced with lights, shadows to show or to hide. and secondly if you ask any guy or girl, who you see in your eyes as being perfect, even they aren't 100% happy with the body they have.
So if that person starts whining about the imperfections then what is it left for you? hehe.
This also reminds me of a song. It's sang by Sugarbabes and it's called Ugly.
I have to say something. Among first things I look at a guy are 2 things. Shoes and hands (specially nails). It can say a LOT! about a man, about the respect he has for himself, how much of a slop he is, the norms he is guiding himself upon.
I believe the most important it is to know where to draw the line.
A guy getting a manicure as in cutting his nails and cuticles is perfectly fine but putting nail polish i believe it's a little too much ://.
If girls are bound to do so many things i believe guys can do a few things also to show they respect us and above all they respect themselves. We live in the 21-st century after all not some ice age some still try to live in.